Quality Vs Quantity Family Time

Families comes in all different shapes, and sizes; nevertheless, the expectations of each family are always the same — to raise a happy and well-rounded child who knows they are loved and feels secure. Although the pressures of life combined with the responsibilities of being a parent can sometimes weigh you down, it’s very important to find a medium that will facilitate quality time spent with your family. Note I said quality and not quantity. While both are essential, I strongly believe that quality is far more beneficial as it aids with strengthening and improving the family relationship. In addition, a child needs someone they can emulate and look up too. There isn’t anyone more suitable for that role than a parent who plays an active part in their child’s life.

Now, when I say quality time I’m not referring to after school activities, overseeing homework, reading a bedtime story, trips to the supermarket, or the occasional play date drop off. While these are important and should not be fringed upon, they fall under the category of quantity time. Although they are time spent with your child and you are partaking in their everyday social life, the time spent is more of a routine responsibility as it needs to be done and you are responsible for making it happen. However, I believe quality time, is not time demanded upon you because it falls under your responsibility as a parent, but meaningful structured time set aside to spend one and one with your child.

Quality time is more of a consistent but personal time spent together; you can also refer to it as an intimate time spent together, bonding, and having meaningful discussions about what’s going on with your child.  Quality time is spending time having fun, laughing, eating, going out for breakfast, assisting your child with a big project not because you have too, but because it is what you both look forward to. Some families select a day in the week and reserve that time to do fun activities together. While other families may do a special mommy/daddy and me time where the child spends quality time with each parent alone once or perhaps twice a month.

Spending sufficient quality time together is mutually beneficial to both the parent and the child. Children strive better when they know that they are loved and when they can rely on you to show up and be there for them, especially when there is a time constraint due to a parent busy lifestyles. More, than likely a child who lack that special bond with their parent or feel insecure, most often display behavioral and emotional problems at home, social gatherings, and time spent with other family members and friends. However, this is not essentially the same with all children as everyone deals with things differently. Also, an older child may not necessarily seek or need as much time with their parents as a younger child who rely and need that continual support from them.
Now that I have spent some time differentiating between Quality and Quantity time I have put together a list of Family Time Fun Activities.

QUALITY TIME FAMILY ACTIVITIES

  • Eating dinner together is a great way to spend some quality time, talking about your day or planning your next activity. Here’s a great book for you to read – The Family Dinner: Great Ways to Connect with Your Kids, One Meal at a Time by Laurie David (Author), Kirstin Uhrenholdt (Author), Maryellen Baker
  • Go on a family vacation; you should have an opened discussion with your family about where you would like to go on your vacation and chose a destination that everyone would love and appreciate. Here’s a link that can provide some travel tips from real parents http://www.minitime.com/author/the_MiniTime_Community
  • Creating family traditions is a great way to spend quality time together. Some family traditions that will keep the family engaged can be as simple as a family hand shake, family prayer, bedtime story, a family motto or even a family evening walk. Be creative as you think about what family tradition you would like to have with your family.
  • Creating a family scrapbook or making a family garden are great ways for you and your child to spend quality time together.
  • It is said that volunteering can increase happiness, decrease depression and help you live longer. Choosing a special charity or organization to volunteer your service as a family would be ideal. In addition to spending quality time together as a family, you will also feel empowered in a positive way as the time spent together is creating meaningful memories.
  • Create a family fun filled night by choosing a day each month to do a special Movie night, Game night, Bowling night, or Cherokee night, etc. with your family.
  • Spending time reading to or with your child is also a great way to bond. Enroll your child (and yourself) to the local library, or find a local bookstore and make it one of your favorite place to go. Maybe, on a Saturday morning, spend time reading new books and learning new things together.

I hope that my blog post gave you an insight on quality time vs. quantity time spent with family. Additionally, I hope you can find some fun family activities to try each month from the list I’ve suggested.

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5 Comments

  1. Carol Cohen on November 16, 2016 at 3:16 am

    Beautifully written Reea…. so many important points were mentioned in your blog. Since most families now have two full time working parents, it is imperative that families come together and find quality time to be with their children. You gave many wonderful examples of activities that are fun, stimulating, creative, educational and inspirational…children who are involved in the planning and participation of these family activities feel more secure, confident, and loved. It’s all about giving our children meaningful, thoughtful experiences that stay in their hearts forever and always. As you so beautifully stated, it’s all about the quality of these experiences, not the quantity! Thank you for the insight.

  2. Desta Fortune on November 17, 2016 at 12:05 am

    You’re truly a phenomenal and thoughtful person/writer, and I can tell that you’re also an amazing and nurturing family woman which isn’t very common these days….. I really appreciate the advice which I am not ashamed to say that I look forward to, really trying to incorporate most if not all your suggestions within my family because sometimes (most times, sigh) I have difficulties with finding the right balance. Thank you Reea, I can’t wait til your next blog!

  3. Destiny Alexander on November 17, 2016 at 11:47 am

    Excellent piece! Being a mother of two I can certainly relate to the quality vs quantity time, though I never looked at it in these categories before. I am so appreciative for this new insight into time spent with my family. Your blogs are awesome and speak to every woman, from every family. You may not know this and I am sure I speak for a lot of mothers out there, you are helping us out in a lot more ways than you could ever imagine. Thanks a lot…..waiting with bated breath for your next piece of critical, pertinent and well-written writings…

  4. Rhonda Martin-Charles on November 17, 2016 at 7:45 pm

    I found this article to be not only well written but also very informative. I have been truly enlightened regarding the differences between quantity verses quality time spent with my kids, a viewpoint which honestly speaking I had not previously given much consideration too. I have duly noted the benefits to be gained by ensuring that more effort is placed in strengthening the parent/child bond by focusing on more quality time together. I especially love the family activities that were suggested and I will be incorporating some of them. I’m intrigued by the idea of starting some family traditions that hopefully will be continued in my future generations. Thank you for sharing your knowledge and I look forward to reading your future blogs.

  5. Susan Baxt Goldstein on November 19, 2016 at 11:48 pm

    Perhaps the most significant part of this article you have written REEA is that for all the years I have known you, you have incorporated your goals of spending quality time with children into your own life, and with your own children. Although you have always been a working mom, you have made the time to listen to your kids, advise them, share family meals and provide them with encouragement and an abundance of love. As a caretaker of other children, you have managed to spend quality time with them as well…even twins who quite often needed love and attention at the same time. You have made every child in your care feel more confident in themselves. It’s wonderful that you are able to share your knowledge and success through your beautiful books as well. Still so proud of you!!!! Susan Goldstein

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